Question:
Angel, you are an example for all, in your strength, compassion, wisdom, patience and love. Thank you.

In expressing that you benefited most from the compassion you received from the psychological community, I came to a more clarified in my understanding of the role that a therapist plays in a relationship with a person seeking guidance. It seems to me that it is always easy to give advice, criticize, make recommendations, categorize and stereotype. I have actively been removing the categorization and stereotyping from my thinking for a very long time, and am now working more on the part of me that immediately wants to give an alternative perspective, question motive, and most importantly, give directions and recommendations. I always have advice to give. Well, this is not always the best response when someone comes to you with a problem. Do you find that it is easier for you to be a compassionate listener or do you also feel obliged to direct people toward a different path than their misery is taking them? Do you think that advice should be requested before it is given? I am speaking of both client-therapist and interpersonal relationships.

Angel's response:

I feel obliged to love. My misery landed me in the land of compassion. I wish that I didn't have to suffer but had I not suffered perhaps, my misery would have been worse. All paths lead home and wanting to stop peoples suffering judges the suffering and forgets to see the opportunity to grow. The more you learn you realize that the less you know. In all that I have experienced I cannot possibly know better than you about your experience. Loving allowance for all things to be in their own time and place, starting with yourself. This is an abiding principle in my life. There is no judgment in the universe. If you feeling obliged to advise somebody to do something different then you are judging that person’s present experience. “Look here is something better”. What right do you have? What makes you think that your way is better for that person? Might be better for you but maybe that person’s way is better for them.

Perhaps if I had been able to embrace my misery my process could have been much shorter.

Read the Post “Soul Integration” There is no judgment in the universe. You do not need to say or do anything. When you remember who you are - A loving divine being. All that you need to do is be. When you are being who you are then what you need to say or do will come naturally in each moment. So, please always listen first. You assume that you are the teacher and the client is the student but when the student is ready the teacher arrives and maybe you are the student. You will miss out if you forget that all you need to do is Remember who you are and show up and be present.

I only answer when asked. Which is why I use a question and answer forum when I speak. I want to tell you what it is that you want or need to know. Not what I think you should know or what I think that you want. I don't read minds well, yet.
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Many Blessings,
Angel

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